***If you haven’t already done so, check out the About Me section of the blog. For the next 13 weeks, I will be writing about how my husband and I met. I will be switching up the format for the posts. Instead of W.O.R.D. it will be R.O.W.D. to help my stories flow a lil’ betta. Ok? Cool? Now, on with the story…
|R||One morning in November 2010, I played Kirk Franklin’s album “The Fight Of My Life” as I always did to start the school day. I remember the song “Hide Me” playing in the background while I planned my lesson. Tears started to flow from my eyes (my eyes are watering now as I am typing this). The beautiful lyrics ministered to my heart:
You’re making me stronger now (It don’t feel good right now, but I had to realize)
You’re making me stronger now (It’s necessary, you’re trying to grow me up)
You’re making me stronger now (You’re taking away everything that’s not like You, Jesus)
You’re making me stronger now (It’s that breaking process, yall)
You’re making me stronger now (Your delay is not a denial, I realize)
You’re making me stronger now (You love me too much to give me too much, Jesus)
You’re making me stronger now (Your plan is perfect even when I am not, I realize)
You’re making me stronger now (I can’t rely on my own strength this time y’all)
My face was wet with tears and I didn’t have any MAC to fix my makeup. In the middle of wiping my face with Kleenex, my instructional aide walked through the door. She was always on time for work, but she was unusually early that day. Embarrassed, I tried to get myself together, but it was obvious that I had been crying.
She was always warm and friendly. We talked often, but mostly about the kids. Though on this day, the conversation went in a different direction. I suppose discernment led her to talk with me on a personal level. God gave her a word just for me. And I knew it was from God because she said a lot of things concerning my personal life that I had never mentioned to her before. I was shocked! It was like she knew about EVERYTHING I was going through. That’s how I knew it was God speaking to me through her.
Full of wisdom, she encouraged me to keep following the Lord. She thanked me for all that I did for the kids and the school. Told me to keep doing good. I remember her saying these exact words, “God hears and sees you…the Lord has a special blessing for you. God is going to send you a husband. Be patient. Believe. He is going to do it. Just wait and see!” I smiled and received everything she said.
We talked awhile longer before the students arrived. She invited me to attend a revival service at her church. Wanna know something crazy? It would be the same church where my future husband and I would get married. I know! I know! Wild, right? (Blushing) I am just amazed at how God does things… (smh) mind blowing!
Fast forward to Thanksgiving break. Wolverine sent me an email. This time it wasn’t about NAL. He wanted to take me out on a date. If you’ve been following the blog you know, I don’t do the whole “mess around with the co-worker” thing. When it comes to business, my personal life is off limits!
But he persisted and persisted and persisted. I finally agreed. HOWEVER, I made it clear to him that it WAS NOT A DATE! It would be a “professional outing.” So, on December 2nd we went to grab a cup of coffee at a local cafe.
O-M- to the G! We instantly clicked. He was the coolest and kindest guy I had ever met! (Awwwww…my eyes are watering again!) Funny thing is: I felt like I had known him my whole life. The conversation was natural—we literally talked about everything! The chemistry between us was so perfect that it was scary. I remember us laughing a lot and him being time enough for my feistiness! I enjoyed his company. We ended the professional outing with a “thank you for the coffee” and a “you’re welcome!”
I got home and started planning my lesson for the next day. As I was emailing myself the materials, another message from Wolverine popped up in my inbox. He wanted to know if I would like to get dinner tomorrow after school…you know, a second professional outing! Shaking my head and smiling, I told him I would get back to him.
The following day, was Friday. Friday’s were always fun, but super hectic. Between teaching lessons, grading assignments, taking the kids to Fun Friday activities, conferencing with parents, meeting with my team, and completing paperwork, I was beat!
After dismissal, I picked up my phone. I noticed a text from Wolverine, asking again if I was up for getting a bite to eat. I had forgotten all about that. Shoot! There was no way I was leaving the school by 4 p.m. ‘cause I had so much to do! UGH!
So, I didn’t respond to his text.
In passing, I told my instructional aide about the text message. She was like, “You should go! Get out of here. Enjoy yourself! You work late every day. Take a break…go out and have some fun!”
I told her I couldn’t cause I had too much work that needed to be done before I left for the day. But she told me again to “leave that work for Monday. Get to know him…give him a chance.”
I explained to her how I felt about mixing my professional life with my personal life. Yet, she continued to push me to go.
I thought about what she said: It would be another “professional outing”. I would eat and then leave. Nothing more…nothing less. I would hang out for a little bit and go home.
So, I texted him back.
And I met up with him for dinner…my life would never be the same.
I knew real love had found me.
P.S. Hear his side of the story in tomorrow’s post…
|O||Remember that list with the red checks from my previous post? Man, he was all that and some more! LOL! Of course, it took some time for me to know this. I would check off each “qualification” after each time we hung out.
And hung out was what we did! We would frequent Panera, coffee shops, malls, museums…we had a blast! Everything was cool. Everything was chill. Everything was real. Everything felt right. It was destiny.
I wonder where I would be today had I not listened to the advice from my wise instructional aide? I wonder what my life would’ve been like if I wouldn’t have gone on that dinner date…oops! I meant professional outing?
I wonder what would’ve happened if I had listened to the negative thoughts in my head that were pushing me not to hang out with him? The discouraging thoughts that told me 1.) you shouldn’t be hanging out with your co-worker, 2.) real love doesn’t exist, and 3.) he’s handsome, but not necessarily your type.
I am glad that I stepped out on faith and gave him a chance. In time, God revealed to me that he was what Boaz meant to Ruth. What Isaac was to Abraham and Sarah. My blessing.
He was the ONE.
My advice: Wait on the promise. Don’t settle for counterfeits because real love (and other blessings) will always find you.
|W||Proverbs 3:5-6 New International Version (NIV)
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
|D||Dear God, I thank You for all that you have done for me. Words cannot express how grateful I am. Your Word is true: for all the promises of God in him are yea, and in him Amen. I give You honor and glory not just for what You have done in my life, but for who You are! May You get the glory and honor out of my marriage. I pray that our story will bless each and every person that reads it in such a way that they will be encouraged to trust You with everything that concerns them.
In Jesus’ name, Amen